If you’re mad at your spouse, boyfriend, or significant other, tell him why, get over it, or tell him you need some time before you can talk.
Maybe at first, acting standoffish works. Maybe. But it’s selfish, immature, and usually always falls back on you.
My husband has always known when I’m upset with him. And he’s always known why. When he’s upset with me (he gets extremely mad when I yell, even if I’m only yelling at the cats for fighting) he’ll usually tell me, or get over it pretty quickly. Of course he’s right, yelling does nothing, and I try to respect his wishes and realize my own faults. But doesn’t mean I really like him for saying so when I’m in the moment.
I always cringe when I hear these words: Oh, he’s gonna know how mad I am. Or, I haven’t spoken to my husband in days. Really? Contact me in a few years, when you need help finding a marriage counselor.
I have known people who won’t look at you or talk to you because they’re mad or upset and they WANT you to ask them what’s wrong. That never works on me. Maybe it does for others, and maybe it works in your relationship. But if you catch yourself doing that, I say STOP NOW!
Maybe when you’re first in a relationship, those subtle hints, those don’t text him or call him first, wait for exactly 1.1 hours, they might work. But ignoring him never ever works. Waiting for him to ask you what’s wrong might work in the first few months or years in your relationship, but that type of attitude is never healthy.
And if someone is ignoring you, I’d say run. Maybe it means they aren’t interested or mature enough.
Sorry to be so harsh, but that is a pet peeve of mine. Yes, anger is real and there are moments when you don’t want to talk to your spouse or someone significant to you. But if you’re mad and you say nothing whey they ask you what’s wrong, maybe it’s time you say I’m upset right now but don’t want to talk about it.